i have been watching the progressive story about Chris Brown and the assault of Rihanna, his girlfriend. i read somewhere that he grew up watching his father beat on his mother. OK i get it. domestic violence is amuck in our world today. there is so much hype now about Rihanna going back to him... and i just want to voice my opinion that i believe if a man hits a woman once, he will hit her again. and the next time, she may not survive it. i have lost all respect for the two, not that i had much initially, i do not enjoy that kind of music. however, these two are role models for our teenagers and i am worried about the message they might be giving our youth, that it may actually be "cool" to hit your girlfriend, if you are a guy, and that it's "acceptable" and "OK" to take the guy back, if you are a woman. NO. NO IT'S NOT. none of it is acceptable. and i don't care how much he may confess his love for Rihanna, its not LOVE. as Oprah says, "love does not hurt."
what i would like to see happen, is Chris Brown admitting he made a huge mistake. then, i would like to see him become a national speaker for violence against women. i would like him to admit he grew up seeing his dad do this to his mom, and to admit he KNOWS its wrong. i would like him then to enter abuser therapy, do whatever it takes to get through his abusive cycles... and set an example for other young men who hit... although the latest news on him is about him partying in a bar with some friends right after his hearing. it does not appear he is considering anyone else at the moment, just himself.
i would like to see Rihanna enter violence against women program and show other vulnerable women/girls out there, how one can break the cycle of allowing some one to abuse you. both of these young entertainers have found themselves in a position that may change the future, either for the good or for the bad. the choice is theirs. this could be such an important teaching opportunity for our youth, who idolize people like them. all i can do is hope and pray they do the right thing. as parents, WE can use this as a teaching opportunity with our kids, by discussing abuse issues and scenarios with them. we can build up their self esteem so they do not accept the victim role. and to those who might say "it takes two... she probably promoted it" you are more stupid than a box of rocks, believing that crap. get a grip. get your shit together. read and inform yourself, you stupid piece of shit excuse for a person, you. i don't care if she did start the hitting first, you NEVER hit a girl. NEVER. no matter what. if your mama didn't teach you that, she must be stupid, too.