to continue on from the prior post... i haven't heard anything yet from either one of the molester's kids. but let me tell you this..
we were at my sister Denise's house the other night to play cards and it was mentioned about me finding them. she looked at me in disbelief, and carried on and on condescendingly that it is the wrong thing to do, that i should just let the past be the past, get over it, and move on.
in that one sentence she invalidated a part of my life that i have been dealing with for years, invalidating all the work i have done in therapy to heal from it, and basically alluding to the fact that i should be able to just get over it, as of course it's no big deal to get molested.
maybe i am over reacting but she really pissed me off. the look on her face was of disbelief, shock, and judgment. and i felt as if i was getting scolded for doing something bad. maybe some types of people can just shut down and never bring up trauma from their past. but that is not how i am made.
i was shut down for most of my life and it was during my divorce that everything came to a head for me.. i have worked my soul off to find closure and healing and peace with the traumas of my past. sometimes i think it's done, sometimes another layer reveals itself at the appropriate time. i will be done when i am done, and i admit i don't know when that will be.
i can only talk about, work on, and feel things as they come back to me, there is no time table for these kinds of things. so my sister is disco-pointed in me, AGAIN. it isn't the first time and it wont be the last.
could she have even an ounce of sensitivity, or empathy for my pain...? is she capable of it when it comes to me? i really don't know. maybe for her, judging is easier than understanding.