"...wE mUst bE thE chAnGe wE wiSh tO sEE iN thE wOrld..." K.G.

4/10/2009

my two sons that still live here at home are going to be having birthdays this week. Christopher, who is 16 will be 17 on Monday. Alexander who is 17 will be 18 on Friday. so for 4 days they will be the same age. ever since they were little, i always make a huge deal out of them being the same age and not twins. its fun and they sometimes act like they get annoyed but deep down i think they really like it. Christopher, my youngest, suddenly wants to get his lip pierced and i of course said no. i explained why and told him i don't want him to ruin his face. what else could i say? i know that alot of kids his age have piercings and tattoos. i did say i would take him to get his ears pierced but absolutely not his mouth. he has been hounding me all week about it. am i being too strict? i thought i was a pretty cool mom most of the time. but right now i dont know if i am doing the right thing. he is a good kid, they both are. but this threw me for a loop. i told him i would pull it out when he was asleep.... or tie him to the bed. he laughed but still wanted it. help.
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10 comments:

Clippy Mat said...

stick to your guns! if it's something that you are dead set against then he will have to respect that is your rule.
tell him liquids will spurt thru the hole when he drinks and girls will be grossed out?

ChiTown Girl said...

Stand tough, C! That's just the most disgusting thing he could do to the beautiful face that God gave him. Remind him that it took you 9 months to grow that perfect face, and he has no business defiling it!!

greg said...

I would tell him that if he still feels the same in a year from now, then you will allow it or at least seriously consider it. Sometimes putting your foot down hard, without an wiggle room, sends a kid running in the opposite direction.

Busy Bee Suz said...

I agree with the others...he has to realize too that this does not always make a great first impression. Will he be looking for work soon? Most employers don't want kids with piercings on their faces...earrings are really accepted now but that is about it.
I don't care for them marring their precious faces either.

My 15 year old wants her belly button pierced!!!! HELP.

SkylersDad said...

Given the choice between the piercing and a tat at a young age, I would go with the piercing. He can always remove that!

La Roo said...

I would tell him he could wait till he was 18 to make that decision. But in reality it's not going to hurt anything. He is wanting individuality and is doing the same thing in retrospect that we all did at this age. This is the 2009 version.
This is not a horrible thing. There are much bigger things that could be going on.

otin said...

Some piercings just look dirty, take for instance, Dennis Rodman!

otin said...

Some piercings just look dirty, take for instance, Dennis Rodman!

C said...

thank you all! i do appreciate the advise. kids today are just so, so... i dont even know a word. i am sure we were just as weird at that age. shit, my day had the mullet... need i say more?

C

jo.irish.rose said...

hey toone, throw him this bone...ask him how he will blow his horn with that? it takes a while to heal, i had my tongue done a while back, and it affected the way i talked, ate and everything. AND who is going to want to make out with him? ewwwww....tell him i said that. his favorite auntie jo. he will believe me. or i can tell him when i call. in a casual-like, non-chalant convo so he won't know we talked. k? love you. moi