tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post7978589560888937480..comments2023-05-12T03:47:22.603-05:00Comments on nO drAmA fOr dA mAmA.: Chttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09910078888984045131noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-37814192993156970182010-04-20T05:23:19.525-05:002010-04-20T05:23:19.525-05:00There's something about those new wives and th...There's something about those new wives and their interference that just drives me insane.<br />Sorry you and your son are hurting. Don't be too hard on yourself......we all make mistakes. You did what you knew how to do at the time, and when you knew better, you did better.Putting the FUN in DysFUNctionalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-85527582495539995282010-04-17T11:37:33.116-05:002010-04-17T11:37:33.116-05:00They aren't finished growing, C. They still ne...They aren't finished growing, C. They still need you and will continue to need you for the rest of their lives. What happened, unfortunately happened, but it's not over by a long shot. You are and I'm sure will continue to be an amazing mother to them all. We can't change the past but there is so much to look forward to. You're a wonderful mother and they are lucky to have you. Much love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-34431618801888327032010-04-16T16:31:22.968-05:002010-04-16T16:31:22.968-05:00Your kids all turned out super fine, C... take a d...Your kids all turned out super fine, C... take a deep breath and remember that. They are also smart enough to know you did your very best xooxoxxTechnodollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06651690556059895831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-4217830348227759282010-04-16T14:42:08.279-05:002010-04-16T14:42:08.279-05:00thank you guys, everything each of you said has re...thank you guys, everything each of you said has really helped me a great deal. i think i place unnessecary [sp.?] guilt on myself. it so helps to hear your opinions.<br /><br />corgi, jason, & kimber you all have wealth of wisdom.<br /><br />cChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09910078888984045131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-43212508108942487292010-04-16T10:19:19.044-05:002010-04-16T10:19:19.044-05:00I like what Jason said in his comment; I would hav...I like what Jason said in his comment; I would have said something similar in that you knew you didn't want to parent like you had been parented by your parents and you watned to stop that cycle and you found ways to make sure you wouldn't repeat your parents' mistakes; I think you did the best you could with what you had to work with. My dad died when I was 18 months old and my mom raised me and my older siblings (brother/sister) by herself. We often did things that perhaps we were too young to be doing (going alone to the grocery store about a mile away at the age of 9, carrying home groceries, etc) but we did it because my mom needed the help. It did teach responsibility and although we do have our issues, all 3 of us turned out fine. Conversely, being raised in a household with 2 parents who got along really well most of the time, both of my kids had rough teenage years, son getting in trouble with the law on several occasions, daughter depressed and suicidal. So sometimes kids even in a 2-parent home with love have issues and I struggle wondering what I did wrong raising them. I think you did a great job; you are there for your kids and I think it speaks volumes that your son would come and talk with you about his issues.<br /><br />bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-17359903133915221302010-04-16T10:00:05.651-05:002010-04-16T10:00:05.651-05:00While it hurts all involved, it seems to me, from ...While it hurts all involved, it seems to me, from the outside looking in, that this is a rough spot that your son will deal with, and then he will move on. It sounds like you were (are) a very good mother, and if the worst thing you did was give your son too much responsibility at an early age, you all did well.<br /><br />I say HUGE kudos to you for a) Being aware and motivated enough to fix yourself so you wouldn't repeat any of the abuse that you suffered as a child, and b) You made it through raising four kids, two of them very close in age, on your own.Jason, as himselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16630210317307544165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-16369241371164666952010-04-16T08:28:05.287-05:002010-04-16T08:28:05.287-05:00C--the worst pain a mom can have is knowing she pl...C--the worst pain a mom can have is knowing she plays a part in her child's pain. But, in your heart of hearts and also in your son's, you both know that you did the best with what you were working with at the time. <br /><br />Guilt is a killer..I'm carrying guilt around that has dogged me for years since leaving the kids' dad..not because I left their dad, but because of the pain they had to endure while going thru it. But, they're constantly reminding me that I should let it go. Let the past be the past and move on. Staying there in that pain isn't healthy for anyone and it totally distracts you from what's going on now....<br /><br />C--I pray for you. I lift you and your children up and pray that peace will overwhelm you all and you'll find relief. :)kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06735828474014945446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-38498847059513726042010-04-16T07:47:21.072-05:002010-04-16T07:47:21.072-05:00pat, you have always been so supportive, i so appr...pat, you have always been so supportive, i so appreciate you honey. thank you and love to you..<br /><br />cChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09910078888984045131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36966379.post-87423261323460666292010-04-16T07:04:41.744-05:002010-04-16T07:04:41.744-05:00You did your best.
Sometimes it's not always e...You did your best.<br />Sometimes it's not always enough, but it's all that we've got. In your circumstances which were exceptional, with everything you've dealt with, I don't think I would have or could have coped. You have raised some amazing kids in spite of it all. Reading back through your last few (wonderful) posts I can see the love you have for all of your kids, they are lucky to have YOU! I am sure that with your love and support he will come through these tough times.<br />Chin up.<br />hugs<br />:-))Clippy Mathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15922234265229327474noreply@blogger.com